I am not perfect; I am a teller and re-teller of tales.
I am not an expert, merely a lover of morning and night.

Tuesday, April 30, 2024

Voice Of Good Counsel, With Echo By Margaret Marks (And Other Poems About Our Children)

 The following is poem written back in 1948 and found in the New Yorker magazine, though under lock. A typed up version of this was sent to me by my mother while I was serving a church mission in Spain for two years. It hit me then and has continued to resonate with me, even more so now that I have children of my own (though the subject in the poem is a son, much like the better known "If" by Rudyard Kipling, I feel both poems equally apply to daughters). I've felt the desire for a while to put up an accessible version of the poem for a while (especially since it is a hard poem to find even when searching for it) so here you are:



Voice Of Good Counsel        With Echo

Because a child is not a flower
And will not wither from the stem,
Do not conspire against that hour 
When you must needs let go of him.

Because a child is not a feast
However much he feed your pride,
Against that hour he is released
Set you other food and drink aside.

Because a child is not a reason
And calls but does not justify,
Plan to outlive his needy season
And listen now beyond his cry.

Because a child is not a king,
Get you some other livery on,
Lest you stand bare and shivering
When he is garmented and gone.

(Oh flower that from my roots did spring,
My feast, my reason, and my king)


By Margaret Marks




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Speaking of "If" by Rudyard Kipling, if you haven't read it or haven't read it in a while, it is always worth a read, whether applying to a child you know or even to yourself.



If— 
 
If you can keep your head when all about you   
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,   
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;   
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
    And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;   
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;   
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same;   
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
    And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,   
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,   
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
    If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,   
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,   
    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!


By Rudyard Kipling



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And finally here is a short poem that I wrote about 4 years ago for my daughters after a day of walking them around with their double stroller.



Procession

When my daughters and I walk out that door,
they in their buggy and I, their chauffeur,
everyone knows to get out of our way.

On the buses they leap from their seats.
It’s no coincidence crowds part and stare.
I hear praise of their style, their wit with words,
and their knowledge of how to command.

Silence ye nations. Behold them go forth.

Traffic stops at their crossing. Everyone knows
how hard it is to be young. They all know
these are their future queens.




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Finally, this particular blog, of my two, is the one meant to encourage others to write. I encourage the same right now to you - write down your thoughts on children or childhood (or advice to them or to parents). Here you have examples of various angles you might use to approach your thoughts:




1. General thoughts on children/parental advice

2. 
Imagine yourself in the position of a child or a parent and what their feelings might be in a specific experience
.

3. Take a news article you've seen about a child or a parent where something happened and write about it
 either from their perspective or as an outsider.

4. Is there anything you specifically admire about a child or parent you know (even yourself)? Why or why not? What advice would you give and why? Is there a story or scene that shows this?


I firmly believe that writing poetry or prose is one of the best ways to give therapy to yourself.
Even if you only have five minutes, try spilling words from your mind unfiltered on a page for that time and I think it will surprise you what comes out.

Saturday, February 26, 2022

 

War Poetry

Due to the recent events in Ukraine, here are some poems that I think are worth reading at this time. Remember that, while many of these poems are more reflective in nature, the topics are war and death, so if that's not what you want to read about, stop here.

I started by picking out some of the older poems about war and its consequences. The first one the first recorded poem about war.

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Enheduanna, a priestess from Sumer, the ancient land that is now Iraq wrote this
Cerca 2300 BC


You are blood rushing down a mountain,
Spirit of hate, greed and anger,
dominator of heaven and earth!


"Nefarious War," by Li Po
written in 750 AD


men are scattered and smeared over the desert grass,
And the generals have accomplished nothing.

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The next three poems are more modern poems that deal with the harsh realities and effects in the middle of war. It is definitely one of the more triggering sections, which is, I think, why it is also very worth reading.


Here, Bullet
by Brian Turner


If a body is what you want,
then here is bone and gristle and flesh.
Here is the clavicle-snapped wish,
the aorta’s opened valves, the leap
thought makes at the synaptic gap.
Here is the adrenaline rush you crave,
that inexorable flight, that insane puncture
into heat and blood. And I dare you to finish
what you’ve started. Because here, Bullet,
here is where I complete the word you bring
hissing through the air, here is where I moan
the barrel’s cold esophagus, triggering
my tongue’s explosives for the rifling I have
inside of me, each twist of the round
spun deeper, because here, Bullet,
here is where the world ends, every time.


Suicide in Trenches
by Siegfried Sassoon


I knew a simple soldier boy
Who grinned at life in empty joy,
Slept soundly through the lonesome dark,
And whistled early with the lark.
In winter trenches, cowed and glum
With crumps and lice and lack of rum,
He put a bullet through his brain.
No one spoke of him again.
You smug-faced crowds with kindling eye
Who cheer when soldier lads march by,
Sneak home and pray you’ll never know
The hell where youth and laughter go.


Dulce et Decorum Est
by Wilfred Owen


Bent double, like old beggars under sacks,
Knock-kneed, coughing like hags, we cursed through sludge,
Till on the haunting flares we turned our backs,
And towards our distant rest began to trudge.
Men marched asleep. Many had lost their boots,
But limped on, blood-shod. All went lame; all blind;
Drunk with fatigue; deaf even to the hoots
Of gas-shells dropping softly behind.

Gas! GAS! Quick, boys!—An ecstasy of fumbling
Fitting the clumsy helmets just in time,
But someone still was yelling out and stumbling
And flound’ring like a man in fire or lime.—
Dim through the misty panes and thick green light,
As under a green sea, I saw him drowning.

In all my dreams before my helpless sight,
He plunges at me, guttering, choking, drowning.

If in some smothering dreams, you too could pace
Behind the wagon that we flung him in,
And watch the white eyes writhing in his face,
His hanging face, like a devil’s sick of sin;
If you could hear, at every jolt, the blood
Come gargling from the froth-corrupted lungs,
Obscene as cancer, bitter as the cud
Of vile, incurable sores on innocent tongues,—
My friend, you would not tell with such high zest
To children ardent for some desperate glory,
The old Lie: Dulce et decorum est
Pro patria mori.

Notes:
Latin phrase is from the Roman poet Horace: “It is sweet and fitting to die for one’s country.”

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These next two poems explore the aftermath of war and the lingering effects on those left behind.

The war will end
by Mahmoud Darwish


The war will end
The leaders will shake hands
The old woman will keep waiting
for her martyred son.
That girl will wait for her beloved husband
and those children will wait
for their heroic father
I don't know who sold our homeland
but I know who paid the price.


The End and the Beginning
by Wisława Szymborska
Translated by Joanna Trzeciak


After every war
someone has to clean up.
Things won’t
straighten themselves up, after all.

Someone has to push the rubble
to the side of the road,
so the corpse-filled wagons
can pass.

Someone has to get mired
in scum and ashes,
sofa springs,
splintered glass,
and bloody rags.

Someone has to drag in a girder
to prop up a wall.
Someone has to glaze a window,
rehang a door.

Photogenic it’s not,
and takes years.
All the cameras have left
for another war.

We’ll need the bridges back,
and new railway stations.
Sleeves will go ragged
from rolling them up.

Someone, broom in hand,
still recalls the way it was.
Someone else listens
and nods with unsevered head.
But already there are those nearby
starting to mill about
who will find it dull.

From out of the bushes
sometimes someone still unearths
rusted-out arguments
and carries them to the garbage pile.

Those who knew
what was going on here
must make way for
those who know little.
And less than little.
And finally as little as nothing.

In the grass that has overgrown
causes and effects,
someone must be stretched out
blade of grass in his mouth
gazing at the clouds.

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I feel it would be remiss of me to not include a few poems that speak to the reasons why people do fight. War is horrific, but individuals will fight and die for a cause they believe in and I do not think this is unjustified, nor do I think it should not be lauded. I think passion for a cause is, indeed, something that is very understandable. The second poem, I have had the audacity to edit for current circumstances.

In Flanders Fields
By John McCrae


In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
    That mark our place; and in the sky
    The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
    Loved and were loved, and now we lie,
        In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
    The torch; be yours to hold it high.
    If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
        In Flanders fields.


The Soldier
by Rupert Brooke's (1887–1915)
Edit by Carey Griffin


If I should die, think only this of me:
That there's some corner of a foreign field
That is for ever [Ukraine]. There shall be
In that rich earth a richer dust concealed;
A dust whom [Ukraine] bore, shaped, made aware,
Gave, once, her flowers to love, her ways to roam,
A body of
[Ukraine]'s, breathing [Ukrainian] air,
Washed by the rivers, blest by suns of home.
And think, this heart, all evil shed away,
A pulse in the eternal mind, no less
Gives somewhere back the thoughts by
[Ukraine] given;
Her sights and sounds; dreams happy as her day;
And laughter, learnt of friends; and gentleness,
In hearts at peace, under
[a Ukrainian] heaven.

Note: The original poem uses “England” and related words
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These last three poems discuss the lives of those uninvolved, their worries, fears, guilt, reactions, etc. during times of tragedy (for it is always a tragedy in my opinion). The last of the three is my own poem from a long time ago during a much more minor tragedy (if they can even be compared) but I thought the sentiment was relevant to the moment.


We Lived Happily During the War
By Ilya Kaminsky


And when they bombed other people’s houses, we
 
protested
but not enough, we opposed them but not
 
enough. I was
in my bed, around my bed America
 
was falling: invisible house by invisible house by invisible house.
 
I took a chair outside and watched the sun.
 
In the sixth month
of a disastrous reign in the house of money
 
in the street of money in the city of money in the country of money,
our great country of money, we (forgive us)
 
lived happily during the war.



Dover Beach
By Matthew Arnold


The sea is calm tonight.
The tide is full, the moon lies fair
Upon the straits; on the French coast the light
Gleams and is gone; the cliffs of England stand,
Glimmering and vast, out in the tranquil bay.
Come to the window, sweet is the night-air!
Only, from the long line of spray
Where the sea meets the moon-blanched land,
Listen! you hear the grating roar
Of pebbles which the waves draw back, and fling,
At their return, up the high strand,
Begin, and cease, and then again begin,
With tremulous cadence slow, and bring
The eternal note of sadness in.

Sophocles long ago
Heard it on the Ægean, and it brought
Into his mind the turbid ebb and flow
Of human misery; we
Find also in the sound a thought,
Hearing it by this distant northern sea.

The Sea of Faith
Was once, too, at the full, and round earth’s shore
Lay like the folds of a bright girdle furled.
But now I only hear
Its melancholy, long, withdrawing roar,
Retreating, to the breath
Of the night-wind, down the vast edges drear
And naked shingles of the world.

Ah, love, let us be true
To one another! for the world, which seems
To lie before us like a land of dreams,
So various, so beautiful, so new,
Hath really neither joy, nor love, nor light,
Nor certitude, nor peace, nor help for pain;
And we are here as on a darkling plain
Swept with confused alarms of struggle and flight,
Where ignorant armies clash by night.


Portrait of a Tragedy
By Carey Griffin


He wakes up again
to the news of children
gunned down by an unknown
man.

He cleans up like normal
and breakfast is the same cold
you might hear in a voice
today as any day.

Before leaving, he fails to remember where
he dropped his keys last night,
pats himself down in a panic: his sides,
his back pockets, his heart,

but there on table, they linger
by yesterday’s paper, splattered
with gray pictures and words
that almost have no meaning.

There’s a photo of a dead man
whose face could be anyone’s.

Next door, his neighbors
begin a war and he hears
their infant wailing.

He hurries out to the car,
turns the radio on then off again
and drums his fingers against the wheel.

His drive is a dream, arriving
with a feeling, not a memory.

On the sidewalk, he notices
an elementary girl trailing behind
her mother’s phone

and brushes past them
down this path into his routine.

Work will consume him,
he trusts; he prays

it’s only a bad beginning
a day that feels clouded
though no clouds cross
the everyday blue,

another morning where nothing’s changed,
except suddenly he doesn’t know himself.

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Finally, this particular blog, of my two, is the one meant to encourage others to write. I encourage the same right now to you - write down your thoughts about the war or war in general. Here you have examples of various angles you might use to approach your thoughts:




General thoughts on war or violence


Imagine yourself in the position of a soldier and what their feelings might be in a specific war experience


Take a news article you've seen where something happened and write about it
What are the after effects of war? Who has been affected and how?


Is there anything to admire, not necessarily about war, but about those that fight or the cause for which they fight? Why or why not? Is there a story or scene that shows this?


How do you feel in a world at war? How does it affect your day or relationships with others?




I firmly believe that writing poetry or prose is one of the best ways to give therapy to yourself.
Even if you only have five minutes, try spilling words from your mind unfiltered on a page for that time and I think it will surprise you what comes out.

Friday, April 18, 2014

What Was Told, That


What Was Told, That
Jalal al-Din Rumi
translated by Coleman Barks 

What was said to the rose that made it open was said 
to me here in my chest. 

What was told the cypress that made it strong 
and straight, what was 

whispered the jasmine so it is what it is, whatever made 
sugarcane sweet, whatever 

was said to the inhabitants of the town of Chigil in 
Turkestan that makes them 

so handsome, whatever lets the pomegranate flower blush 
like a human face, that is 

being said to me now. I blush. Whatever put eloquence in 
language, that's happening here. 

The great warehouse doors open; I fill with gratitude, 
chewing a piece of sugarcane, 

in love with the one to whom every that belongs!
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Here the poet uses images to help us imagine what he is feeling, although neither he nor we can say exactly "what" it is. In this way the poet helps us reach a feeling inside of us about love that is hard to comprehend. This provides a magical quality to what could otherwise be confusing or obtuse. And in the end, we as the readers not only understand his emotions, but we feel like we understand that same emotion better within ourselves.

While keeping this poem in mind, its techniques and its messages, here are some prompts that you may use to write a poem:

  1. What is a situation that you are in, or have been in before? How does that situation make you feel? Is there something in nature that you can imagine having felt that same way? Use nature imagery to try to reach the same feeling.
  2. Has someone done something for you or said something to you that has make you feel a specific way? Without getting into the details, use nature imagery to reach that same feeling.
  3. Take a line from this poem and use this in your poem (a title, a first line, or other). Write.
  4. What else does this poem remind you of or inspire in you? Write.

Saturday, February 15, 2014

To Whoever Set My Truck On Fire - Steve Scafidi

To Whoever Set My Truck On Fire
Steve Scafidi

But let us be friends awhile and understand our differences
are small and that they float like dust in sunny rooms
and let us settle into the good work of being strangers
simply who have something to say in the middle of the night
for you have said something that interests me—something of flames,

footsteps and the hard heavy charge of an engine gunning away
into the June cool of four in the morning here in West Virginia
where last night I woke to the sound of a door slamming,
five or six fading footsteps, and through the window saw
my impossible truck bright orange like a maverick sun and

ran—I did—panicked in my underwear bobbling the dumb
extinguisher too complex it seemed for putting out fires
and so grabbed a skillet and jumped about like one
needing to piss while the faucet like honey issued its slow
sweet water and you I noticed then were watching

from your idling car far enough away I could not make
your plate number but you could see me—half naked
figuring out the puzzle of a fire thirty seconds from
a dream never to be remembered while the local chaos
of a growing fire crackled through the books and boots

burning in my truck, you bastard, you watched as I sprayed
finally the flames with a gardenhose under the moon
and yes I cut what was surely a ridiculous figure there
and worsened it later that morning after the bored police
drove home lazily and I stalked the road in front of my house

with an ax in my hand and walked into the road after
every car to memorize the plates of who might have done this:
LB 7329, NT 7663, and you may have passed by—
I don’t know—you may have passed by as I committed
the innocent numbers of neighbors to memory and maybe

you were miles away and I, like the woodsman of fairy tales,
threatened all with my bright ax shining with the evil
joy of vengeance and mad hunger to bring harm—heavy
harm—to the coward who did this and if I find you,
my friend, I promise you I will lay the sharp blade deep

into your body until the humid grabbing hands of what must be
death have mercy and take you away from the constant
murderous swinging my mind makes my words make
swinging down on your body and may your children
weep a thousand tears at your small and bewildered grave.

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Anger is a common emotion, yet it is extremely hard to write about it because it is often unjust or overdone, or simply unable to produce empathy in the reader. Here, however, the author manages to hold our attention the whole way through. It starts seemingly kind and understanding, an attempt at reconciliation. We aren't put off by an immediate anger that we don't understand; instead we identify with the peaceful speaker who merely wants to talk. And then we are sucked into an almost unbelievable story, one that sounds ridiculous, yet it captures the truth behind the anger as well, the effect it can have on us, and the honest feelings we have towards an unjust offender.

While keeping this poem in mind, its techniques and its messages, here are some prompts that you may use to write a poem:
  1. Recall a moment you were angry and begin from the moment you were at peace with whatever happened. If not at peace, imagine seeking a peaceful resolution. Then, slowly, back up and explain the situation, starting with an objective, yet interesting, description and slowly move into your true feelings at the time. Don't be afraid to reveal any silly actions you took as a result of your anger or to hyperbolize your feelings. What was your end wish for that person at the time and how does it contrast with your current wish for that person?
  2. Write about a time you were a victim of someone's actions and show us about that person through descriptions of what was done, instead of specific descriptions of the person.
  3. Take a line from this poem and use this in your poem (a title, a first line, or other). Write.
  4. What else does this poem remind you of or inspire in you? Write.

Saturday, October 5, 2013

After Years - Ted Kooser

After Years
Ted Kooser

Today, from a distance, I saw you
walking away, and without a sound
the glittering face of a glacier
slid into the sea. An ancient oak
fell in the Cumberlands, holding only
a handful of leaves, and an old woman
scattering corn to her chickens looked up
for an instant. At the other side
of the galaxy, a star thirty-five times
the size of our own sun exploded
and vanished, leaving a small green spot
on the astronomer's retina
as he stood on the great open dome
of my heart with no one to tell.

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Here, the author takes an experience (seeing "you" after years) and creates a feeling by directing our attention to believable concurring images. And finally, after leading us on a journey of images, the author brings us back to himself and somehow the images he has woven together create a feeling in us that allows us to empathize with his experience. 

While keeping this poem in mind, it's messages and techniques, here are some prompts that you may use to write a poem:

  1. Find a moment in your life where a change occurred or a memory resurfaced and imagine concurring images that help both mimic your feelings and also add up to give us a greater understanding of you as a person. Use the final image as a tie in back to you.
  2. Take a line from this poem and use this in your poem (a title, a first line, or other). Write.
  3. What else does this poem remind you of or inspire in you? Write.

Tracks - Tomas Tranströmer

Tracks 
Tomas Tranströmer
(Translated from the Swedish by Robert Bly)

Night, two o’clock: moonlight. The train has stopped
in the middle of the plain. Distant bright points of a town
twinkle cold on the horizon.

As when someone has gone into a dream so far
that he’ll never remember he was there
when he comes back to his room.

And as when someone goes into a sickness so deep
that all his former days become twinkling points, a swarm,
cold and feeble on the horizon.

The train stands perfectly still.
Two o’clock: full moonlight, few stars.

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Wow. This poem captures the essence of a single moment. We do not know why this event is important, and yet the power of the event comes across to us in two seemingly simple metaphors. Poetry doesn't need to be complicated to contain and convey truth. Every time I read this poem, I can feel myself there on the train and I believe the strangeness of it like a dream as well as the timelessness.

While keeping this poem in mind, it's messages and techniques, here are some prompts that you may use to write a poem:

  1. Find a single moment in your life that is meaningful to you and use two short metaphors to try to explain to us, the reader, why the moment was important.
  2. This poem contains two metaphors that are seemingly contradictory (the ephemeral qualities of a dream mixed with the eternal qualities of a sickness), yet work together to accurately explain an experience. Find two qualities that are seemingly contradictory and find metaphors for them. Then, use those metaphors to talk about a single experience or moment.
  3. Take a line from this poem and use this in your poem (a title, a first line, or other). Write.
  4. What else does this poem remind you of or inspire in you? Write.

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Oranges - Gary Soto

Oranges
Gary Soto

The first time I walked
With a girl, I was twelve,
Cold, and weighted down
With two oranges in my jacket.
December. Frost cracking
Beneath my steps, my breath
Before me, then gone,
As I walked toward
Her house, the one whose
Porch light burned yellow
Night and day, in any weather.
A dog barked at me, until
She came out pulling
At her gloves, face bright
With rouge. I smiled,
Touched her shoulder, and led
Her down the street, across
A used car lot and a line
Of newly planted trees,
Until we were breathing
Before a drugstore. We
Entered, the tiny bell
Bringing a saleslady
Down a narrow aisle of goods.
I turned to the candies
Tiered like bleachers,
And asked what she wanted -
Light in her eyes, a smile
Starting at the corners
Of her mouth. I fingered
A nickle in my pocket,
And when she lifted a chocolate
That cost a dime,
I didn't say anything.
I took the nickle from
My pocket, then an orange,
And set them quietly on
The counter. When I looked up,
The lady's eyes met mine,
And held them, knowing
Very well what it was all
About.

Outside,
A few cars hissing past,
Fog hanging like old
Coats between the trees.
I took my girl's hand
In mine for two blocks,
Then released it to let
Her unwrap the chocolate.
I peeled my orange
That was so bright against
The gray of December
That, from some distance,
Someone might have thought
I was making a fire in my hands.

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What I love about this poem is how he lets the images do the work. Each person, place, and thing in this poem is connected to an image. The girl doesn't just come out, she comes out "pulling at her gloves, face bright with rouge." The tiny bell doesn't just ring, it "[brings] a saleslady down a narrow isle of goods." These images add up to the feeling of innocent love conveyed in the poem. It creates the feeling of warmth that it shows in the final image. Not once does he say how he loves the girl or what she might feel about it. In truth, this is very much like a silent film.

While keeping this poem in mind, its techniques and its messages, here are some prompts that you may use to write a poem:
  1. What is an experience with a girl that you remember from your childhood. What did you do together? Use images to show everything that happened. Have a beginning and an end, similar to a narrative.
  2. Have you ever had a silent understanding with someone? What led up to that experience and what followed it? Use images to show everything that happened.  Have a beginning and an end, similar to a narrative.
  3. What was your first experience with someone you love or loved. How did it pan out? What was the season and weather like around you? How did the things around you show the feelings that you felt? Describe.
  4. Take a line from this poem and use this in your poem (a title, a first line, or other). Write.
  5. What else does this poem remind you of or inspire in you? Write.